couples therapists Amsterdam
Why choose our practice?
The hurdle that couples often face when seeking professional guidance is high, leading to procrastination. Now that you are almost overcoming this hurdle, it is crucial that both you and your partner feel comfortable enough to fully commit to the process. Feeling a connection with the therapist and having trust in the approach are vital. You can find more information about the approach and its scientific foundation in the frequently asked questions section. However, first and foremost, we would like to highlight who we are as therapists. This is because we understand, from our own experience, how significant the connection between the couple and the therapist is. Without ‘that’ connection and understanding, trust cannot be built; without trust, complete openness is hindered, and without openness, therapy may not yield successful outcomes.
‘We are more than the various educational qualifications we have attained or the approach we follow‘
We are deeply immersed in urban life and therefore personally familiar with both its joys and challenges. Each of us has, in our previous careers, earned our stripes in large corporations, within the consultancy field or as an MD – Sexologist . Through our own experiences, we understand the impact that careers, social pressures, family- and social expectations can have on relationships.
We have ambitious and social partners who also strive to maximize their lives. We have wonderful children who, in their own unique way, have a significant impact on our energy, lives, and relationships. Thus, we truly comprehend the struggle to find time, attention, and balance
Furthermore; we are not soft and we don’t beat around the bush. The therapists at It Takes Two are energetic and attentive. We are discreet, involved, and empathetic, but that does not stop us from holding up a mirror to reflect your own behaviors and confronting you with them.
The proof of the pudding
‘We are not you, and we are not the same. However, when you look at our profiles, you will find that one of us resonates with the recognition you are seeking. Someone with whom you and your partner will feel safe and comfortable..’
We would be delighted to have the opportunity for a more personal introduction so that you can experience the aforementioned claim for yourselves. By clicking on the button below, you will be directed to our scheduling tool where you can book an appointment. During a 30-minute online conversation, we will get acquainted and see if there is a connection from your perspective. There will also be ample opportunity to ask questions about the approach and practical matters.
Couples therapist Amsterdam
Erik Schell
SENIOR | LOCATIONS: CITY CENTER
I derive energy from untangling the knot. It deeply affects me when people desire to connect but struggle to do so. When emotions and needs become so overwhelming that they remain unspoken. When vulnerability disappears, and hard secondary emotions such as anger, rage, or silence and detachment take their place. In my work as a couples therapist and personal coach, I help individuals reconnect with their emotions. I approach this task with pragmatism, realism, and a focus on concrete solutions, rather than taking a soft or abstract approach.
My background
After completing my master’s degree in psychology, I worked as a consultant for several years. During that time, I often encountered resistance and conflict. I discovered that as emotions, temperaments, and misunderstandings between parties escalated, a sense of calm washed over me, and my senses sharpened. I come alive when things become uncomfortable. I build bridges and strive for mutual understanding. I encourage people to truly listen before speaking themselves. I hold things together when the impulse is to walk away or, worse, let the situation escalate further. With my composure and tranquility, I can provide a secure base from where couples can start the conversation in a different way. In addition to my psychology studies, I have received supplementary training from institutions such as Phoenix Utrecht (Coaching | Systemic work) and the Dutch Foundation for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
On A more personal note
I live in Amsterdam with my girlfriend Kim and our two children, Wende and Pepijn. Having navigated the intense early years of parenthood, along with a bustling social calendar and a demanding career, I fully grasp the effects that children and a carreer can have on a relationship. My purpose is to foster open and candid dialogue, removing any barriers or stigmas, as we embark on a journey towards greater connection and harmony.
Characteristics
Energetic | Sharp-minded | To the point | Sensitive | Pragmatic
Core Values and Traits
Unprejudiced | Solution oriented | Thorough | Compassionate | Empathetic
Couples therapist Amsterdam
Marlies Kuijt
SENIOR | LOCATIONS: EAST | ONLINE
Working together to rebuild mutual understanding – that’s what I love most about couples therapy. I’m thorough and persistent, diving deep where needed but keeping a sense of perspective where possible.
With my background as a medical doctor (GP) and sexologist, I know that sexual issues are rarely just medical. More often, they stem from emotional distance, unspoken needs, or tension within the relationship. Sexuality is far more than physical arousal; it is an interplay of intimacy, trust, and connection. When these elements are missing, a relationship often struggles to thrive.
My background
I graduated as a medical doctor from the University of Amsterdam in 2010 and soon pursued additional training as a certified sexologist (postdoc). After running my own practice as a doctor and sexologist for over a decade, I expanded my expertise by training as a systemic therapist (family and couples therapy) at the AIGR. Today, I combine my work as an NVVS-certified sexologist and couples therapist at It Takes Two with great passion and dedication.
About me
I live in Amsterdam with my family and thrive on everything this vibrant city offers. From its local charm to its diverse international expat community, the city’s energy and variety inspire me every day. Working in such a dynamic environment means continuously adapting to different perspectives and needs – something that keeps me sharp and engaged.
Every client brings their own unique story, background, and challenges. That’s what makes my work so fascinating and rewarding. In my practice, I prioritize a personal yet professional approach, combining attentive listening with sharp insight to create lasting solutions tailored to each individual or couple.
Online Couples therapy
Angela Nguyen
MEDIOR | LOCATION: ONLINE
The inevitable struggles of life and relations can be ever exhausting, but they also invite opportunities for connection. On top of the invigorating challenge of playing detective and creatively looking at the puzzles that are relationships, I also just love being connected and part of the journey. As much as I have hope in the couples I’ve worked with, I’ve noticed that the very same couples have also (indirectly) instilled a lot of hope and inspiration in me. It’s fascinating what humans are capable of, especially when you least expect it, and those moments pull me to continue to show up for my clients as much as how they show up for each other.
My background
After earning my B.S. in Psychology at Portland State University and my M.A. in Marriage and Family Therapy at Regis University in Denver, I found my greatest passion in working with couples. I also have experience working with trauma, mental health challenges, (e.g. Major Depressive Disorder, Bipolar Disorder, Borderline Personality Disorder) and the unique struggles adolescents face. At this stage in my career, I am working toward becoming a supervisor, so I can guide and support the next generation of marriage and family therapists.
On A more personal note
Having moved from the United States, I’ve found it exciting to navigate not just a new city, but an entirely new country. As an expat, I understand the mix of excitement and challenge that comes with starting over in a new place. I thrive on exploring new cultures, perspectives, and dynamics. Originally from California, my journey to this point has been a long one and has definitely shaped the way I guide clients on theirs. I aim to help them embrace challenges, grow through change, and discover new ways of connecting with themselves and others.
Characteristics
Personable | Bubbly | Reliable | Passionate | Straightforward with compassion