our couples therapists
Why choose our practice?
The hurdle that couples often face when seeking professional guidance is high, leading to procrastination. Now that you are almost overcoming this hurdle, it is crucial that both you and your partner feel comfortable enough to fully commit to the process. Feeling a connection with the therapist and having trust in the approach are vital. You can find more information about the approach and its scientific foundation in the frequently asked questions section. However, first and foremost, we would like to highlight who we are as therapists. This is because we understand, from our own experience, how significant the connection between the couple and the therapist is. Without ‘that’ connection and understanding, trust cannot be built; without trust, complete openness is hindered, and without openness, therapy may not yield successful outcomes.
‘We are more than the various educational qualifications we have attained or the approach we follow‘
We are deeply immersed in urban life and therefore personally familiar with both its joys and challenges. Each of us has, in our previous careers, earned our stripes in large corporations, within the consultancy field or journalism. Through our own experiences, we understand the impact that careers, social pressures, family- and social expectations can have on relationships.
We have ambitious and social partners who also strive to maximize their lives. We have wonderful children who, in their own unique way, have a significant impact on our energy, lives, and relationships. Thus, we truly comprehend the struggle to find time, attention, and balance
Furthermore; we are not soft and we don’t beat around the bush. The therapists at It Takes Two are energetic and attentive. We are discreet, involved, and empathetic, but that does not stop us from holding up a mirror to reflect your own behaviors and confronting you with them.
The proof of the pudding
‘We are not you, and we are not the same. However, when you look at our profiles, you will find that one of us resonates with the recognition you are seeking. Someone with whom you and your partner will feel safe and comfortable..’
We would be delighted to have the opportunity for a more personal introduction so that you can experience the aforementioned claim for yourselves. By clicking on the button below, you will be directed to our scheduling tool where you can book an appointment. During a 30-minute online conversation, we will get acquainted and see if there is a connection from your perspective. There will also be ample opportunity to ask questions about the approach and practical matters.
Couples therapist Amsterdam
Erik Schell
I derive energy from untangling the knot. It deeply affects me when people desire to connect but struggle to do so. When emotions and needs become so overwhelming that they remain unspoken. When vulnerability disappears, and hard secondary emotions such as anger, rage, or silence and detachment take their place. In my work as a couples therapist and personal coach, I help individuals reconnect with their emotions. I approach this task with pragmatism, realism, and a focus on concrete solutions, rather than taking a soft or abstract approach.
My background
After completing my master’s degree in psychology, I worked as a consultant for several years. During that time, I often encountered resistance and conflict. I discovered that as emotions, temperaments, and misunderstandings between parties escalated, a sense of calm washed over me, and my senses sharpened. I come alive when things become uncomfortable. I build bridges and strive for mutual understanding. I encourage people to truly listen before speaking themselves. I hold things together when the impulse is to walk away or, worse, let the situation escalate further. With my composure and tranquility, I can provide a secure base from where couples can start the conversation in a different way. In addition to my psychology studies, I have received supplementary training from institutions such as Phoenix Utrecht (Coaching | Systemic work) and the Dutch Foundation for Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT).
On A more personal note
I live in Amsterdam with my girlfriend Kim and our two children, Wende and Pepijn. Having navigated the intense early years of parenthood, along with a bustling social calendar and a demanding career, I fully grasp the effects that children and a carreer can have on a relationship. My purpose is to foster open and candid dialogue, removing any barriers or stigmas, as we embark on a journey towards greater connection and harmony.
Characteristics
Energetic | Sharp-minded | To the point | Sensitive | Pragmatic
Core Values and Traits
Unprejudiced | Solution oriented | Thorough | Compassionate | Empathetic
Couples therapist Amsterdam
Marlies Kuijt
Working together to rebuild mutual understanding – that’s what I love most about couples therapy. I’m thorough and persistent, diving deep where needed but keeping a sense of perspective where possible.
With my background as a medical doctor (GP) and sexologist, I know that sexual issues are rarely just medical. More often, they stem from emotional distance, unspoken needs, or tension within the relationship. Sexuality is far more than physical arousal; it is an interplay of intimacy, trust, and connection. When these elements are missing, a relationship often struggles to thrive.
My background
I graduated as a medical doctor from the University of Amsterdam in 2010 and soon pursued additional training as a certified sexologist (postdoc). After running my own practice as a doctor and sexologist for over a decade, I expanded my expertise by training as a systemic therapist (family and couples therapy) at the AIGR. Today, I combine my work as an NVVS-certified sexologist and couples therapist at It Takes Two with great passion and dedication.
About me
I live in Amsterdam with my family and thrive on everything this vibrant city offers. From its local charm to its diverse international expat community, the city’s energy and variety inspire me every day. Working in such a dynamic environment means continuously adapting to different perspectives and needs – something that keeps me sharp and engaged.
Every client brings their own unique story, background, and challenges. That’s what makes my work so fascinating and rewarding. In my practice, I prioritize a personal yet professional approach, combining attentive listening with sharp insight to create lasting solutions tailored to each individual or couple.