Our approach
1. Intake
During an informal online intake session, you will have the opportunity to meet the therapist. By briefly discussing the issues in your relationship or the immediate reasons for seeking help, you can get a sense of the therapist’s style. During this conversation, you will also learn more about how couples therapy works. There will be ample time to address all your questions about practical matters like scheduling, costs, location, and so on. The primary goal of this conversation is for you to determine whether there is a connection with the therapist, whether you feel comfortable with them, and whether you wish to work on your relationship under their guidance.
The first session
2. What’s our negative interaction pattern?
During the first session, we delve deeper into the reasons for reaching out. What has been going wrong for a while? What are examples of recurring conflicts between you? We extensively discuss such situations and examine them from both perspectives. Essentially, we closely examine what is going wrong in your mutual dynamics. We analyze what happens in your interaction by using one or more examples as reference points.
Following sessions
3. Exploration of patterns, interactions and root causes
During the subsequent sessions, we repeatedly examine how these situations are experienced by both of you, based on your experciences. What behaviors do we observe? How does the other person perceive or hear this? What is the effect on the other person? What beliefs and assumptions exist about this back and forth?
Slowly and safely, we transition from discussing incidents (behavior) to discussing (attachment) needs or fears. We guide you in expressing your feelings earlier and more clearly. In this way, during therapy, you work together to build mutual trust, safety, and depth: the foundation of any relationship.
Vervolg sessies
3. Verdieping in patronen en interacties
Tijdens de vervolg sessies kijken we steeds weer opnieuw aan de hand van jullie verhalen hoe deze situaties door jullie beiden beleefd worden. Welk gedrag zien we? Hoe ziet of hoort de ander dit? Wat is het effect hiervan op de ander? Welke overtuigen en aannames bestaan hierover over en weer?
Langzaam en veilig maken we de overstap van praten over incidenten (gedrag) naar praten over behoeftes of angsten. We begeleiden jullie in het eerder en duidelijker benoemen van je gevoel. Tijdens de therapie werken jullie op deze manier samen aan onderling vertrouwen, veiligheid en verdieping: de basis van iedere relatie.
Wrap up
4. Strengthening safety and trust.
In this phase, you gain a deeper understanding of your own and each other’s emotions. You become aware of what you truly need in your relationship and perhaps what you are afraid of. We gradually work towards a conclusion when you both feel secure enough to express these fears and/or needs to each other. A foundation of trust has been established, making it easier for you to reveal your own vulnerable sides and express emotions without the fear of rejection. Your feelings are valid, and your partner will accept and appreciate you for who you are.
Shedule a free online intake!
On this website and through the videos and podcasts we refer to in our blog, we aim to address all your questions about couples therapy. Despite this, many couples experience hesitations and wait too long to seek help. As a result, conflicts unnecessarily escalate, or worse, emotional distance grows. The once-strong connection between you now feels like a distant memory. So, take the step today and schedule a free intake session where we will take all the time necessary to answer your remaining questions.
FEES
● Free intake – 30 minutes € 0,-
● Session – 75 minutes € 197,50
● Payments: after every session with an invoice including I-deal request
Cancellation: free of charge if a minimum of 48 hours before the session